The spontaneous movement within all of us is toward connection. No matter how withdrawn and isolated we may be, and regardless of the severity of the trauma we have experienced, just as a plant spontaneously moves toward the sun, there is an impulse toward connection within each of us at the deepest level. This organismic impulse is the driving force of NARM work.
Laurence Heller
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We are never truly cut off from our source. We are only cut off from awareness of our source.
Laurence Heller
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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Rumi
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Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard, they are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you
by a part of you that loves you more than anything else.
The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to your self.
You are not going to go in the right direction unless there is something pricking you on the side, saying, telling you: look here this way, that part of you loves you so much that it doesn‘t want to loose the chance.
It will go to extreme measures to wake you up. It will make you suffer greatly if you don‘t listen.
What else can it do? That‘s its purpose.
A. H. Almaas, quoted by Gabor Maté in
How to Discover & Heal Your True Self (youtube)
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What you have to do,
you do with play.
Life is without meaning.
You bring the meaning to it.
The Meaning of life is
whatever you ascribe it to be.
Being alive is the meaning.
Joseph Campbell
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I am me. You are you. I and you are always different. Everyone is responsible for their own life. Together we are responsible for our relationship. We enjoy agreement and common ground.
We accept what is separate without reproach. We negotiate for the desired and necessary coexistence in diversity. I pay attention to my evil, hostile and destructive side and control it.
I do not allow myself to be infected by the disturbances of others, but rather:
– I do not ‘play along’,
– I leave the field,
– or I actively defend myself when there is danger,
– and I work for better conditions.
Hans Joachim Maaz
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We have become accustomed to our misery. We would feel very lonely if we stopped being unhappy. We would lose our most faithful companion. He has become our shadow, he follows us everywhere. If there is no one else, at least your misery is with you. You are married to it. And this marriage has lasted a very long time. Now the time has come for divorce. That is what I call courage, really—to separate yourself from your misery and thereby lose the oldest habit in human thought, your oldest companion.
Osho
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Real inner work threatens our identity. The more someone invests in personal growth, the more that person questions what they once thought was their identity. We must not underestimate the power of survival that identity provides… Although adults are no longer fully emotionally dependent on others for their own survival, when they begin to question their identity, it often triggers a fear that lies deep within them: the fear of losing a relationship.
Larry Heller, Brad Kammer
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Anytime you’re gonna grow, you’re gonna lose something. You’re losing what you’re hanging onto to keep safe. You’re losing habits that you’re comfortable with, you’re losing familiarity.
James Hillman
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The feeling of disconnection… is a profoundly unhappy state of feeling that the person you love most is unreachable and inaccessible.—All human endeavors are ultimately attempts to regain that connection, to return home, to the place where we feel connected and at ease, where we feel that things are as they should be. Everyone is working on the same task—to return home—no matter what their projects and endeavors may be.
A.H. Almaas
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In NARM we assume that change is prevented by our hardly efforting to change. But the more we give ourselves the space to fully experience who we are, the greater the chance of change.
Larry Heller, Aline LaPierre
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In your symptoms are your souls deepest desires.
James Hillman
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…This is our season of descent. Now we are going down. By necessity certain things can only happen in the darkness. So if we can get over our anxiety being in the dark we might find actually something nourishing in the dark. – It’s a place of deep listening, humility, a place of not knowing. It’s a place of receptivity and imagination. – It’s also a time of falling apart … And there are things that have to fall apart…
Francis Weller
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Everyone, regardless of their background, can begin to perceive the signs of wholeness, whether in the form of a cry or a whisper, and decide to move in their direction. With the heart as our guide and the mind as a willing and curious partner, we follow the path that is most aligned with that call.
Gabor Maté